Break the cycle

     If you’re reading this, you’re either a friend, a family member or perhaps

the victim yourself. I know you might be feeling a bunch of different

emotions. Fear, ashamed, unsure of your future. Not knowing if you can live

without this person. They have programed you to believe they are the most

important thing in your life, period. I know it’s hard to take the leap. To trust

people you have pushed away for so long, but they are still there and just

waiting to help you.

     If you’re a friend or family member and want to help a loved one. There are a

few things you should know… It doesn’t matter what you do, if the person

isn’t ready to hear it. Be patient, even though it’s easier said than done, it’s a

must. Don’t push too hard. Sometimes they don’t see the abuse. It starts

subtly and they gradually become use to it.

If they are not ready to leave or make the tough choices, please don’t

judge them. They feel enough guilt. You may not realize you’re even doing

it. It’s best to be hyper sensitive and aware of how the victim is receiving the

information.

     You may not understand what they’re going through or why they don’t

just leave, but be supportive. Hopefully the time will come when they see the

destructive behavior and want out.

     Help them come up with a safety plan for when they are ready. It never

hurts to have a back up plan. Encourage them without being overbearing.

Don’t tell them what to do. Help guide them gently to the realization of the

situation they’re in.

     In some cases, they may be in extreme danger. Be very cautious when

communicating with them. Don’t send random texts. It’s best to speak to

them directly and in private.

Love them hard and don’t forget how special they are to you.

DON’T GIVE UP ON THEM.